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Battle-Worn Spouses

After more than a decade of war in Iraq and Afghanistan it is common to meet women whose spouses who have deployed two, three even four or more times.

My own husband has 42 months of combined service down range. Deployments are so common in our house that news of an impending trip has lost its sting.

I no longer fear or loathe deployments. Instead, I pray they don’t fall during my Girl Scout troop’s annual camping trip because that, my friend, is a hard event to find a babysitter for.

Deployment Soundtrack: Don't Stop Believing 2.0

 Don’t Stop Believin’

            Journey, 1981

            Preview Song

I have 52 weeks to cover. Did you really think that I could go without repeating a song? Just so you know, this song will come up when we have, in my opinion, utterly amazing moments.

The College Spouse: FINALS!

I swear, I feel like I have senioritis! This is my last week for this quarter and I am ready for it to be over! Tonight was the last night for one of my classes, so that leaves one to go. This week is not going by fast enough at all.

A private moment, a public search

Sometimes outsiders do get it.

I’ve often lamented that the general public just doesn’t understand military life. They don’t understand the pressures of deployment. They don’t comprehend that our entire lives revolve around the military’s needs. They don’t realize that the most important days of our lives, births, weddings and even funerals can be overshadowed and altered by the military’s plans for our soldier husbands.

This photographer gets it.

Deployment Soundtrack: Vacation


     The Go Go's, 1982

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"Vacation all I ever wanted. Vacation had to get away ..." I have never felt that urge so strongly as I do right now. It is that time of the summer and we are ready for a change of scenery. As I write, we are two days out from heading to Colorado. We will spend a few days there, and when we come back to Kansas, we will spend a few days in Kansas City.

The College Spouse: Go to school Online or in Class? How to choose

Often when I talk about attending college with spouses who have not yet gone back to school, I am asked ‘Should I do online classes, or sit down classes?’ Well, the choice is yours really! There are a lot of things to consider when deciding which option is best for you. First and foremost, I always advocate doing your homework. What I mean by that is fully researching the school you want attend. There are reputable and not so reputable schools out there (both online and one’s with campus locations) so it’s always best to make sure you are careful with your selection.

Applicants wanted

In this difficult economy, how often are there more jobs than applicants?

For the moment, the good folks at, a site we introduced to you in May, are facing just that type of crisis.

The organization specializes in matching veterans and military spouses with employers across the country. The site, created by a Navy veteran, is the largest of its kind.

Deployment Soundtrack: Tomorrow She Shines

Tomorrow She Shines

 Another Man Down, 2001

            Preview Song

I am sad and lonely. There. I wrote it and it is out there for you to ponder. It is my firm belief that everyone  goes through emotional cycles during deployment. The cycles may not be the same, and we may not go through them at the same rate. However, we all go through them. So far, my cycles have been the following:

The College Spouse: Funny how things change

I cannot believe I am sitting here, weeks away from my 20-year high school reunion. Where have 20 years gone? I remember being a freshman and thinking, ‘Oh my goodness, we have four years here. We are going to be here forever!’ Not only did those four years fly by, but so have the last 20!

Pinterest killed the work at home star

I heart Pinterest.

But it is killing my work routine.

I’ve long found that the beauty of working at home is that you can take an eight-hour work day and squish it into about five if you really concentrate – four if you let your toddler veg out in front of the “Wonder Pets” on repeat mode for at least two episodes.


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